10 Extremely Damaging Dating Mistakes Men Must Avoid

Trey Hamilton
11 min readAug 25

Please, for the love of god, stop making these rookie mistakes and pull up your trousers, grab your balls, and take some kind of control over the decisions YOU make and learn to date better. I say this with all the unbridled love in my heart for you cause I know you can change and be the badass mother fucker you’ve always been deep down.

I’m not mincing my words today; buckle up and focus.

Let’s GO!

1. Being he Hyper Agreeable Guy

Today, in the dating world where neediness is scorned, you may find yourself playing it cool, suppressing your true feelings for fear of being labeled “needy,” so instead, you just agree with everything she says. This façade can lead to misunderstandings and resentment, and you end up looking even more paper thin cause most women can see right past that shit. They know why you’re doing it. They know why you’re lips are super glued to her ass cheeks. The psychological term that they use for this is called “self-monitoring.” This is the tendency to adjust your behavior to fit different social situations.

Trying to be something you’re not in the dating world is like choreographing a dance for TikTok, obsessing over every move to appear effortlessly cool. But just as viewers can sense when a dance lacks any real passion and joy, a woman can feel when your actions are made just so you’ll agree with her so she’ll like you. Authenticity, not practiced perfection, leads to what you want. A poll, conducted by the dating app Bumble, found that 70% of women said they would be turned off by a man who was constantly trying to please them.

Knock it off.

Try this instead: As George Bernard Shaw said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” Embrace true vulnerability and voice your authentic and raw feelings — learn to walk with your head held high and optimism off the Richter scale that makes you a magnetic force to be reckoned with. Relationships flourish when both partners understand and respect each other’s needs. Your true partner…

Trey Hamilton

Author - The First Date Fix - Dating Coach - Content Creator -Dog Dad | follow me for some ramblings of a millennial who has dated. A LOT! TheFirstDateFix.Com