6 First Date Mistakes

Trey Hamilton
5 min readAug 1, 2022

Before we even get into first date mistakes. Often people ask me, “how do I get one?”.

Unfortunately, there are no magic words you can use to convince someone to go on a date with you.

But as far as I know, getting a first date these days is fairly straightforward. It just takes a bit of time, effort, and dedication for most of us.

Audibly and technically demonstrate that you’re an attractive enough person in both looks and personality and find out ideally where you’d like to meet someone and start from there.

The most obvious and easiest ways people are getting first dates are through dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble.

In my experience, there are only really a certain type of people who get success there, and in my studies, I’ve found that most people feel like they aren’t getting what they want anyway.

Guys say things like, “oh, I never get any matches. It’s a waste of time. Unless you’re like an Instagram influencer”.

And then their profile is a grainy ass selfie taken from the chin up, looking like a serial killer with an I-phone four.

I’m gonna keep it, real fellas. If you want to match with the woman of your dreams, you’ll need to step up your photo game just a little bit.

I’ve heard it from the ladies too. A large number of attractive women say things like that. There are just no good guys out there anymore. “Men are trash; they only use you for sex anyway. It’s all they want”.

Meanwhile, their bio is something like this:

  • Sophie 27.
  • Love to hike and travel **smiley face**
  • “I don’t need a man. I want a man.”
  • Add me on IG: @immakingzeroeffort

And as a guy, when you see someone put no effort into their bio, you just think…

Yeah, she’s still stunning. I’ll message her anyway.

Men, sometimes, we’re the problem.



Trey Hamilton

Author - The First Date Fix - Dating Coach - Content Creator -Dog Dad | follow me for some ramblings of a millennial who has dated. A LOT! TheFirstDateFix.Com