There’s no such thing as dating equality.

I want to find my equal.

I want an equal partnership.

Have you ever heard these cliches before?

Is it true? Is the pinnacle of good relationship equality in its truest sense?

Which marriages and relationships are happiest? And is it the same for men and women? These questions are becoming a growing topic of discussion about intimate partnerships as the roles of men and women in families have shifted dramatically. The world is changing.

In any relationship, power dynamics are at play, and the pursuit of love for some people can often feel like a battle. You have male dating coaches, on the one hand, telling you how to “win” when you date women. On the other hand, you have female dating coaches telling you, you’re the best ever, and you’re perfect, and that “they’re” the problem, not you. Both sides urge their followers to seek maximum equity where they can.

No matter how well you strategize, there is always the risk of losing and ending up feeling like a prisoner to your partner’s whims.

You’ll never be able to “win” cause it was never supposed to be a competition.

What does this mean for modern monogamy?