Chemistry is bullshit — how can I get just one good first date!?

Why is it so hard to find one great first date?

You might be the problem. I’ve said this in a few articles, and this isn’t so you beat yourself up or feel bad about your current situation. But self-reflection and self-awareness will be one of your most powerful tools when it comes to dating and anyone who feels like they don’t have some things to work on is unknowingly battling themselves.

But keep reading. I promise there will be a few solutions in this piece.

I know a lot of friends, family, and colleagues will kiss your ass and gas you up. But they’ll never tell you the truth cause they want to be “nice.” I believe sometimes you need to take that other route to get to that special someone that will add to your happiness. Sometimes that other route is looking inward.

I once had a client who went on his first date and he came back to me on our second session and told me how it went.

Him: That was one of the most amazing dates I’ve ever been on. She’s passionate. She has a lovely smile. We got along so well. We connected; we had chemistry with so many common…