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Dating Broke Me Just Enough to Make Me Dangerous.
Most Women Say They Want a Nice Guy — Until They Meet One
This one is a classic, but I had to learn the hard way.
Most men think that if they’re kind, respectful, and generous, dating will reward them in some entitled way.
Nice = Sex, right?
But if that were true, every alleged “good guy” would be in a thriving relationship. He’s not.
The reality is there is no such thing as nice guys, good men, or, quite frankly, good people. A lot of people are self involved pretentious assholes. Some of us learn our lessons and try to put good back out there, but most other people are so self-involved they wouldn’t even know how.
So what’s really going on?
The dating world isn’t driven by the logic of being nice.
It’s driven by psychology, primal instincts, and timing. If you don’t understand how that triangle works, you’ll end up playing therapist to women who gave their best years to men who treated them like shit.
Let’s break this down.
