Do women really care about looks, money, and status?

Trey Hamilton
10 min readSep 21, 2022


I used to be a waste of space who talked the talk but never walked the walk.

In 2014 I was the heaviest I’ve ever been. I went from 200 pounds in university to 282 pounds. I was let go from a start-up that went bust past Series A. To make matters worse, I got dumped about two weeks after I was let go. Most of the time, I played video games and watched movies all day. I rarely read, didn’t exercise, and was just trying to get by. I had aspirations but I would try them and then give up.

Ultimately I was kind of a joke.

I feel okay admitting that because it was true.

So what did I decide to do?

Online dating.


I kid you not; I was lonely and depressed; I felt like I needed someone at the time.

So why am I telling this?

Because I’ve been the archetype of a man who some women now feel comfortable verbally castrating on their podcasts, Tik Toks, and the like. I’ve been the “average guy.” I’ve been the chubby friend zone guy. I’ve been at my lowest and learned if any of those things actually matter to women.

You hear it all the time, right?

  • “Women want muscular guys.”
  • “Women want providers.”
  • “Women want a guy with status.”
  • “Women like a man who can lead”
  • “Women like strong men”

The list goes on. These are cited by men, women, and anyone with a pulse who claims to be an expert on the opposite sex.

So I’m going to share MY TRUTH. I could be very wrong, it’s most likely my myopic objective and biased opinions.


But if any of you men can relate, let me know in the comments.

Trey Hamilton

Author - The First Date Fix - Dating Coach - Content Creator -Dog Dad | follow me for some ramblings of a millennial who has dated. A LOT! TheFirstDateFix.Com