Don’t hold your breath: why some people will never change

Hoping someone will change to be the person you actually want to be with is a romantic fantasy that will never come to fruition. Sticking around and dating someone who shows signs of change but no actual change is a waste of your time. Taking patterns and rhythms of disrespect, hoping it will change, will waste months of time you’ll never get back.

Look, I appreciate where some of you might be coming from but hoping for someone to change is like waiting for a sunflower to bloom when you’ve planted a carrot — it’s just not going to happen under any circumstances.

When I was 22, I did a stupid, selfish, and very mean thing.

Did I break the law?

No.

Did I beat anyone up?

No.

So what did I do!?

I broke someone’s heart.

Repeatedly.

Because I didn’t care.

Before you think of me to be an asshole, please read on. I’m in my early 30s now, and I’ve moved on from that brief stage in my life, and rightfully so.

But there was a period of my life where the more someone liked me, the more I lost respect for them.