Embracing assertiveness and excellent conversational skills with confidence is your thing! I say lean into it more than ever, and it's great to hear that many men find it refreshing. The tendency to label assertive women as "intimidating" is a dumb obstacle, but it's also a testament to your strength and a way to filter out those who value genuine communication and mutual respect; it means a very specific kind of man will love it and very specific kind won't. Either way that's a win, win. As you rightly pointed out, fantasizing too early in the dating process can hinder authentic connections. True compatibility unfolds through genuine, open dialogue, and your approach encourages sincerity and meaningful interactions. Embracing a "no regrets" mantra and staying true to your authentic self will undoubtedly lead to more fulfilling connections. Keep pursuing conversations that matter, don't let the others discourage you. Finding genuine people is harder than it's ever been. Which means it won't come easy but it will be worth it.