I Debunked the ‘Nice Guy’ Myth

You have all been lied to…

Are you tired of hearing the age-old adage that “women don’t like nice guys”? Well, shit down, stop your whinging, and listen up. I’m gonna launch some truth bombs on that noggin of yours.

If you’ve lived under a rock most of your life, “nice guy syndrome” is when a man believes that just by being nice to a woman automatically entitles him to her affection and attention. But as we all know, real life doesn’t work that way. It’s like expecting a home run just because you’ve swung the bat. But as any baseball player can tell you, there’s a lot more to the game than that young fella.

I get a decent amount of nice guys telling me that the real issue in dating is that the world hates “nice guys.” They’ve tried being emotionally present, showering their dates with gifts, paying and planning for every date, and telling her how beautiful she looks, but they still end up feeling disappointed and frustrated. They blame the dating universe for brainwashing them into thinking that women love jerks. They consistently ask if I can teach them how to be a bad boy and be ‘more alpha’. Some of these dudes seem to think the dating world is like a Las Vegas slot machine — insert nice deeds and out pops a relationship and woman who’s dying to sleep with you. But women, much like life, aren’t slot machines; they don’t yield rewards for every coin dropped.

No, man, you’re looking at this completely wrong.

Emotional Standards are still a thing.

There’s a double standard when it comes to emotional sensitivity. Women are expected to be “nice,” and being “nice” can boost their dating prospects. This is not based on science or any kind of factual evidence. In fact, there is no scientific evidence that suggests women are inherently expected to be nice.

I believe that societal and cultural expectations and gender norms play a significant role in shaping the perception that women are supposed to be nice. Just remember that these expectations are not based on scientific fact and should be challenged and questioned.