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I’ve experienced something ‘much worse’ than ghosting
I actually prefer ghosting as there is an abundance of stories I can make up within my head as to why this person vanished. It then becomes more of a reflection of them as a person instead of me. Then I walk along merrily and move on with my life.
But the slow fade, on the other hand.
IMO — Way worse!
The slow fade is terrible cause it’s such a sneaky coward-like deceptive performance by someone who really wants to end a relationship without revealing their decision and just being honest. It’s a way they can somehow avoid being the “bad guy” whilst also using the excuse of “just drifting apart.” They almost see it as a nice, kind little gesture to let you down easily. The slow fade is like a magician pulling a disappearing act, leaving you baffled and wondering where they went, while they’re smirking backstage, convinced they’ve pulled off the greatest escape in dating history.
Wankers.
But it’s not that way for the other person at all. In fact, I think a slow fade is a form of severe gaslighting that inflicts emotional damage that takes some people quite a while to heal from.
