JuST bE cONfiDenT, bRo.

Why this is one of the worst pieces of advice people give to men.

You can honestly picture the smug bastard telling this, right?

You know exactly what he looks like.

Sometimes, when I hear this dating advice paraded around social media, I feel like grabbing my beer and throwing it all over that glib piece of advice.

Okay, of course, I’m kidding (Kind of). But sometimes, that’s how I feel.

One of the most annoying and often misunderstood oversimplified pieces of dating advice that goes beyond the point of beating a dead horse is the mantra of “just be confident.”

It’s like telling a depressed man to simply cheer up — a well-meaning but ultimately ineffective and crap piece of advice, much like tossing a man in quicksand, throwing him a motivational poster, and calling it a day.

Fucking Useless.

It’s so annoying. Especially when I hear self-proclaimed dating experts spout out that mantra as if they’ve discovered fire.

Confidence is not and has never been the magical key to dating success; it is not a switch to be flipped on demand. It’s a complex, multifaceted trait that intertwines with our deepest insecurities and social anxieties.