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Men Don’t Need “Game”

Trey Hamilton
11 min readMar 13, 2025

Billions of men feel like modern dating is utterly rigged against them.

Every year, the goalposts are moved, and what was standard and acceptable a couple of years ago is now openly and loudly laughed at for all the world to hear. The ladder gets taller as you climb. With every step you take, the expectations rise higher, ensuring that no one ever feels they’ve truly arrived.

  • First, it was 6 feet. Now it’s 6’5’
  • Providing and protecting used to make you a great man. Now, if you’re not also a world traveler, a social media icon, and a part-time philosopher, you’re just “boring.”
  • It used to be earning at least six figures now, six figures is seen as broke.
  • Having a 9–5 used to be a good thing; now it’s seen as lame cause you don’t have your own business
  • Eating well and staying in shape was great, but now you gotta be built like Chris Hemsworth.
  • Being emotionally available was once praised; now you’re “too soft” if you show vulnerability.
  • Having a reliable car and a steady job was attractive; now, if it’s not a Lambo and a passive income, you’re “not ambitious enough.”

No matter how kind, supportive, or genuine you are, the guys who win are the ones who lie…

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Trey Hamilton
Trey Hamilton

Written by Trey Hamilton

Author - The First Date Fix - Dating Coach - Content Creator -Dog Dad | follow me for some ramblings of a millennial who has dated. A LOT! TheFirstDateFix.Com

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