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My friend Listened to my dating advice for men, and after two years, he’s engaged!
What worked for him, and how did he make it happen!?
7 min readDec 31, 2024
One of my best friends, James, is engaged to a sweet, funny, and incredibly charismatic woman, and because he’s still in London, we finally got to meet her.
Who is James?
He got divorced right around the pandemic, and unfortunately. He went into the dating space unarmed, not ready, and got used and abused. Fellas, when you enter the jungle without a map, don’t be surprised when the predators find you first and rip you to shreds.
- He got ghosted — a lot.
- An abundance of women never responded to his messages after he matched.
- He tried to approach women in public, particularly on the London Underground, but nothing.
- He got breadcrumbed — Women showed just enough interest to keep him hooked but never actually followed through.
- He faced brutal honesty. — A few times, women told him outright that he wasn’t their type or that they were looking for someone “more established.” (He’s a staff software engineer who makes $226,000)
- He got friend-zoned. After weeks of texting, hanging out, and even paying for dates, he’d hear the…