“She didn’t even want to get a coffee with me, WTF!?”

“Trey! I took your advice and I asked a girl out for a coffee like you said I should. And she said, now. She said she wanted to go on ‘a real date’. Now what do I do!?”

Well, first of all, my friend, anyone who says shit like “real date”. Let them get that from someone else cause they clearly don’t know the etymology of what the word dating even means.

Secondly, let me break down where I think you might have gone wrong.

I’ll stand my previous articles and statement, be cheap as hell and spend as little on a first date as humanly possible; this works for a reason. When we extend a dating invitation to a woman, whether it be for a leisurely stroll or a simple coffee, we’re offering much more than just the explicit activity.

“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” — William James.

Our every interaction on a first date is an exchange of value wrapped up in an experience package; because you asked her out, this is an experience you are required to provide.

As you ponder why you might struggle to persuade someone to accompany you for a simple coffee, consider this — it’s not about the aroma of the beans but the company they’ll share. If your invitations are met with reluctance, perhaps the problem…