So now the first date’s over — what next!?

How to keep moving things forward after the first date?

When I first got back into the dating game in 2015, I was horrendous at first dates. I was stupid, a hopeless romantic, and didn’t know when to STFU.

I knew nothing of the “new rules” of dating, and I had been out of the game for five years. I was constantly reinforcing these serendipitous meetings and dates in my head, and when it didn’t go my way, I was severely disappointed. It was as if I had been living in a cave for five years, and when I emerged into the dating world, I was completely unprepared for the new technology, social norms, and all the slang (Ghosting, breadcrumbing, etc).

But unfortunately, when it comes to first dates, it’s never like the movies. Those movies are pure escapism and are supposed to be grounded in fantasy.

I don’t tell you this to be negative-ninny, but I tell you this to explain that you can get close to those moments; you can get close and feel those feelings of utter content, happiness, and a sense of safety that this can actually be what you’ve been looking for. You can continue what hopefully was a great first date and build upon the resemble of magic that has already been created.