Telling someone they’re the problem doesn’t inspire change—showing them a path forward does.

This is the same old Medium pandering, by perpetuating harmful generalizations about men, framing us as inherently flawed while offering cliched surface-level solutions rooted in such annoying condescension rather than genuine guidance - I legit can't stand this performative nonsense.

Writers like you seem to cherry-pick behaviors and presenting them as universal issues, ignoring the complexity of real life dating dynamics and dismissing men’s perspectives or struggles.

Men as a group are not "a heap of self-centered shit-heads," this just makes your advice counterproductive to fostering mutual respect and understanding for men to make this change.