What’s the secret to long last relationships?

Hurrah!

You’ve found your perfect partner! You’re settling into a lifelong relationship with them. Congratulations you did it.

But now, how do you keep them?

Here are some scary statistics for you, One in two marriages in the USA ends in divorce with the rest of the world, not being far behind.

Is there predictability to this? Is there a science or equation where perhaps we can avoid this and be on the good side of 50%?

Psychologist John Gottman did exactly that. He took the time to observe thousands of couples having their conversations recorded. He recorded everything he possibly could, what was said in the conversation, he recorded their skin conductivity, he recorded their facial expressions, their heart rates, their blood pressure, basically everything! Bravo John, you have far more patience than I ever could.

Gottman found that one of the most important predictors of whether or not a couple was going to get divorced was how positive or negative each partner was being in the conversation.