Why ask for advice when you already know the answer?

Trust your own dating instincts…

Time and time again, I try and give people the benefit of the doubt. But when my heart tells me not to do so and I do it anyway. That’s where I’m punished. Go by your hunch! That feeling for sharp intuition. That instinctual hint that this is not where you should be!

Your gut is always right; your instincts are still right. Go with your GUT.

“Never apologize for trusting your intuition — your brain can play tricks, your heart can blind, but your gut is always right.” — Rachel Wolchin

I’m going to give you a couple of stories of when I didn’t go with my gut. I used to toil around with sloppy-eyed ambivalence. I know this doesn’t apply to everyone, but I want you to be prepared and save time. I know my experiences aren’t reflective of how everyone else should feel, however, I’m giving you these examples because I want you to get into my head, and I’m sure some of you will relate to one or two of the stories that I’m sharing with you today.

Story 1:

There was once an instance when I was seeing this great woman. However, the first time we got intimate. I expressed to her that I have a rule that if I’m physical with someone. I’m only going to be seeing her, and if she feels the same, then we’ll date exclusively and see what happens.

She agreed and said, “you know that you’re the only person I want to sleep with.” So I said, okay, that’s fair. We went on to four other dates after that. But what I found interesting is that trying to get a hold of her, and trying to spend some time with her was becoming increasingly difficult because she was always so strapped for time. What was even more interesting is that she was working part-time. And she was living with her parents. So, where was all of her time going?

My gut instinct told me that she was seeing someone else or seeing other people. She just didn’t have clairvoyance enough to tell me the truth. On one occasion, she was over at my house, and she was showing me a funny meme that one of her friends sent her…