You’re not as good at conversation as you think you are…

How to improve your communication skills on a first date!

Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters.

Margaret Wheatley

Yeah, I know it sounds harsh, but you’re not. In fact, you never will be. Everything can always be worked on and improved.

For some strange reason, humans have a natural tendency to want to parade themselves around and only talk about what they like and find interesting. I remember I left one date thinking “I had it in the bag”, and she was wayyyy interested.

I didn’t.

I did not, indeed, “Have it in — the — bag”.

I was swinging the lead like a champ, thinking I had the ball in my court, only to realize I’d put the cart before the horse and ended up up the creek without a paddle

I think I spent an outrageous amount of time talking about myself. Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying in order to be a conversationalist you have to not talk about yourself at all. But you must strike the perfect balance. You gotta listen and study books on communication. I’m not kidding. After realizing I had turned into a borderline narcissist on that date, I bought, 5 books!

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